Saturday, April 24, 2010

Pregnancy and giving

'Biggest Loser' trainer Jillian Michaels has worked hard for her fit figure and she won't ruin her body for anything -- not even a baby. Michaels tells Women's Health (via Huffington Post) in a new interview: "I'm going to adopt. I can't handle doing that to my body. Also, when you rescue something, it's like rescuing a part of yourself."
The previous paragraph is from a gossip website called popeater. This statement was made a few days ago and has been circulating the web, making people think, including me.
I have been thinking that having children is all about self-less giving, and that giving starts before a child is even born, during a woman's pregnancy.
Being pregnant is really the ultimate preparation for a lifetime of giving that parenting involves. A woman has to physically share her body with her unborn child- sharing oxygen, nutrition and letting the baby take up precious space. She will have aches and pains connected to her weight gain, possible nauseau and fatigue, and many other accompanying effects.
Once the child is born the giving really begins- feeding, diapering, bathing, being up at night. A lot of the giving is physical at first but there is also the emotional- giving love, attention and time. As the children grow, the emotional needs become stronger. The need for affirmation, affection, respect, etc.
We give of ourselves more than we can ever imagine and then we give more. And even though we do get exhausted and burned out at times, we have no regrets and would do it all over again if we could. We feel that it is worth it. We want to give. And as a result of all that giving we become better people, because we are less self-absorbed and learn to take the needs of others into consideration.
Which is why I think that Michaels' statement is a sad testament to the increasing self-involvement of people. If she is not willing to give up her figure and fitness regimen for nine months, is she ready to have a child and truly give on so many different levels.
Obviously, that is not for me to judge. But it is a good question for pregnant woman and women with children to ponder: Do we know what is required of us as parents and are we willing to look beyond ourselves to do it? Comments, please!!


  1. ;) you said it much better than I could have. Although I do agree - to each HER own.

  2. I applaud you for your insight into Jill Michaels by your statement that if shes so self absorbed how will she be able to think of the needs of the baby she adopts Adopting a baby takes alot of selflessness, caring, time and devtion Its not for everyone